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"NERV" spamme…@thisaddress.net wrote: >So..That is the jist of it. Here is my main issue. >She thinks I’m too strict. I don’t allow the boys to eat sugar products >after dinner time 7:00pm as they will go to bed at 8:00pm for the next day. >No cookies, popsicles or candy. As this gets really tough to bed them down >with sugar in their diets. I don’t allow t.v. or games or playing when they >are in trouble. If they don’t do what they are told to do the first time >they are told, I will ground them for a day with them in their rooms and an >extra chore. I do not tolerate backtalk and fighting as this leads to a swat >on the rear with a small paddle. Basic discipline here people.
Discipline? Okay, here, pay attention to this because this is the best parenting advice you’re ever going to hear….. Get this audio tape: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1883188040/qid=10368428… =8-1/ref=sr_8_1/102-7821753-0152131?v=glance&s=books&n=507846 Trust me on this one. I have no connection with Coloroso or anybody to do with this tape. But I’m telling you as a father for two decades, this is the one (and the only one) audio tape that I recommend to parents. Father to father, Hope that helps, CJ
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CJMorgan59 <cjmorga…@aol.com> wrote in message
news:20021109065805.01314.00003596@mb-mk.aol.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "NERV" spamme…@thisaddress.net wrote: > >So..That is the jist of it. Here is my main issue. > >She thinks I’m too strict. I don’t allow the boys to eat sugar products > >after dinner time 7:00pm as they will go to bed at 8:00pm for the next day. > >No cookies, popsicles or candy. As this gets really tough to bed them down > >with sugar in their diets. I don’t allow t.v. or games or playing when they > >are in trouble. If they don’t do what they are told to do the first time > >they are told, I will ground them for a day with them in their rooms and an > >extra chore. I do not tolerate backtalk and fighting as this leads to a swat > >on the rear with a small paddle. Basic discipline here people. > Discipline? > Okay, here, pay attention to this because this is the best parenting advice > you’re ever going to hear….. > Get this audio tape: > http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1883188040/qid=10368428… > =8-1/ref=sr_8_1/102-7821753-0152131?v=glance&s=books&n=507846 > Trust me on this one. I have no connection with Coloroso or anybody to do with > this tape. But I’m telling you as a father for two decades, this is the one > (and the only one) audio tape that I recommend to parents.
I have that video… its excellent… great reccomendation CJ =) – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Father to father, > Hope that helps, > CJ
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"NERV" <spamme…@thisaddress.net> wrote in message
news:v21z9.3601$Ov5.984423603@newssvr12.news.prodigy.com… > What is a man supposed to do?
Give love, encouragement and support? I would not be too pleased if a man thought he knew better than me and just came in and took over the raising of my 2 boys and then asked to be thanked for it. I’d probably be so mad that I’d use sex (or lack of it) as a weapon. Amy
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NERV wrote: >Any advice from like > opinioned people?
Well, I’m oppinioned, but I don’t know how wise my advice always is. I think you should find a way to deal with the kids; I won’t go there because I know as much about kids, as I do about quantum physics. The world of parenting to me is like the other side of the looking glass, but I know what I would do with the wife. I would just tell that her coldness is driving you away. Sounds to me like your trying very hard to be a decent person. Remind her of how hard it is to find someone that will care enough to put up with all the bullshit you have to put up with. If she starts to scream and fight tell her the screaming isn’t going to work much longer. Your getting sick of the fighting, and one day she may be screaming at the back of your head as you walk out the door. She may be going through some shit that is messing her up, be willing to help her, work with her, talk to her. Tell her she needs to overcome whatever her problem is, before you are FORCED to leave. After all, what good is love, if love makes you miserable. Or you could just be sneaky, and have a female co-worker call your house a few times. Wear cologn to work a few mornings, maybe a little jealousy might remind her you don’t nessesarily HAVE to be her husband. Kil
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When I read the first part of your post, I was tempted to put together a diagram to ensure I fully understood your family tree 
, I think anyone who can take two boys from that past and raises them into up-standing citizens the way you have, should be guardedly praised. I say guardedly because I get the impression you rule with an iron fist,and have very traditional views, I pick this up from comments like ("yes maam, yes sir" and "paddle"), but I hope that you have found a balance between that and simply having good times with them, bending in their direction at times. Not just "firm but fair", but "firm, fair and fun". I would have to agree (with another poster) that being so forceful in your approach to your wife about this is always going to cause friction. I am impressed that you have managed to have this effect on two boys who can always opt-out of your parenting by reminding you with tall the tact kids do, that you are not their biological father. I feel that without your wife fully subscribing to your ideas, you are in danger of creating two camps in your household (at least). I agree with you that she needs to understand the importance of discipline, not just to your home but to the children (disciplinees) in their adult life, but it needs to be agreed what level that takes place, and only what is agreed should take place. Good luck with that. "NERV" <spamme…@thisaddress.net> wrote in message
news:v21z9.3601$Ov5.984423603@newssvr12.news.prodigy.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> What is a man supposed to do? > The odd’s are stacked against me sometimes. Whatever happend to responsible > men who treated their wives with respect and love with unimaginable support > and in return got back admiration and support as head of the family? Those > times are gone now with radical movements of women who feel that if they > don’t control their men, They are subjecgated and lowly. This is not how it > was supposed to be. > My story? Well, I have 4 children. 2 my own and 2 her biological. The 8 an d > 7 year old are her biological and the 8 month and 5 year old are my > biological. My 5 year old lives with my ex wife and I see him monthly while > he comes here. My daughter who is 8 months lives with us and is both our > prodigy. Her past 2 serious relationships gave way to our 8 and 7 year old > but both were physically abusive and mental as well. The 8 year old’s > biological father gave up his parental rights in court and the 7 year old’s > bio has not been seen from for 6 years. All of you should be familiar with > the hardships of a single mother and the affects it has on 2 boys. If you > don’t know first hand, You most likely read about it I presume. If you > haven’t, Let’s just say the odd’s are against them also. > Well needless to say I found her in her life raising 2 young boys in a > fashion of giving them what they wanted when they wanted it to make up for > their lack of a father figure. She was lonely and I grew very fond of her. > We married and shortly had our baby whom we both love and couldn’t live > without. My issue here is. > The boys lacked guidance and manners. So though it was tough and I mean > tough. I straighend out the oldest as best as I could. Through discipline > and restriction and constant love. I managed to stop him from a bad self > esteem, Lack of self control, mouthy language to us both and he brought his > grades up from f’s to a’s and b’s. He also changed from everyday getting in > trouble at school to no trouble or bad remarks at all. He is very well > mannered now and says yes ma’am and yes sir to us both. Excuses himself at > the table and works just as hard as we do in the house when asked. He cleans > up after himself and is a remarkable boy. The 7 year old however is falling > apart and will get the same manner of straightening to correct him. This > worked and the 8 year old knows he is loved and really REALLY knows the > value of the correction he received. It’s done wonders. BUT, > The road was difficult. As I was just in the family so to speak. I took > control of his care. Every action of his was regulated by me. Against her > will at times. I stood by the reasoning tha tshe was indeed a female and > could not walk a young boy’s shoes to understand what it was and is like > growing up a little boy. A year later and his entire life turned positive, > She claims that my intervention saved his life and made him good. > Sure, We had battles, Arguments and even screaming matches to get my way and > get him right. (she is soo easy to manipulate by them) They play on her, but > all kids do that. > So..That is the jist of it. Here is my main issue. > She thinks I’m too strict. I don’t allow the boys to eat sugar products > after dinner time 7:00pm as they will go to bed at 8:00pm for the next day. > No cookies, popsicles or candy. As this gets really tough to bed them down > with sugar in their diets. I don’t allow t.v. or games or playing when they > are in trouble. If they don’t do what they are told to do the first time > they are told, I will ground them for a day with them in their rooms and an > extra chore. I do not tolerate backtalk and fighting as this leads to a swat > on the rear with a small paddle. Basic discipline here people. I watch them > closely and when they lie I don’t let them get away with it. Even small iddy > biddy white lies…. > She however looks at her past where her mother and father allowed her to get > away with lying, Sneaking out late, Back talk and ZERO manners. She claims > that SHE turned out alright and that they will too. She says all the time, " > Things aren’t fun around here anymore like they used to be". > Well, My boys are still on the road to recovery and are getting better, But > it doesn’t mean that it will be like this forever. I told her that once the > boys are older and these things are second nature to them, It will a lot > better. > I have not objected to her reasoning with our daughter as I did not grow up > a girl. I don’t know what it is like and I give her free reign with her and > the choices in her life. > IS THIS WRONG? I don’t believe it to be.. > Our relationship is suffereing. When my 8 year old starts to act up he > doesn’t quit till it’s too late. What starts as a quick mouth turns into > refusing chores and then outright tantrums. He gets punished by grounding > and corner time that my wife hates. She gets mad at ME when HE acts up in > public and I correct him saying, " Dont you 2 get into it with each other". > This offends me because It is not US getting into it, It is my 8 year old > not following the rules. Why do I get blamed for his misbehavior? Same with > my 7 year old. I have all but turned this child around to the good side of > life and when he starts to buckle the fence and I tighten the reigns and > enforce the rules, I get shafted. Did I get between momma bear and her cubs? > I am their dad and daddy. They call me that and say I love you daddy. I have > loved them like my own! But, My wife comes first. > She can’t do that. It’s always been children first, husband somewhere down > that line. > No sex..that’s what my main issue is. I can’t seem to be intimate with my > wife. If I bring it up she gets mad and starts a fight about how I pressure > her. No, It’s not post pardum depression and it’s not hormones. She is fine > and healty. In bed when I try to initiate sex, She slaps my hands away from > her body and again starts an aurgument. During free nights alone, As it > comes closer to bed time and it’s been a long time since we have had sex, > She’ll pick a fight with me about anything. Even small things like clothes > being hung on the edge of the bed or something she didn’t like 4-5 days ago. > But, Any other night, It’s no big deal. Only during nights when we are alone > and have a chance to have sex. She aviods it at all costs. Then blame’s me > for the lack of a sex life. > She is a dominant woman who will not allow me to control the bills. I have > tried to do them, but she gets angry and starts fights. She is not frugal > with money. She will buy clothes and other items on ebay then get mad at me > for buying a 2.50$ pack of smokes. She gripes at me for not shaving and says > that I look like shit and she is embarrased of me. She throws away my > clothes that she doesn’t like. She yells at me when I’m on my computer. ( I > run a I.T. business from my home. I.T. involves extensive computer work) I > watch my 8 month old everyday of the week while she sleeps during the day > from her night job. Even on her days off.. My child doesn’t sleep till 8 pm > then gets up at 2, 6 and 7:30am. All of which I am up tending to her. > Meanwhile I must run my company from 8pm till 2 or 4 am most nights, Then > respond to my customers during the day when I get her to sleep for 20 minute > naps, Clean the house and do the dishes, make dinner and get the other kids > ready for the next day. > But I still try to put her first. Have I sent her flowers? Yes. Do I write > love letters? NO and HELL NO. If you wonder why read above again. > I have tried my best to refuse porn and cheating. I’m afraid that my > emotional banks are overdrawn and I need a few deposits. I didn’t come from > a single life into a marraige just to raise children and get yelled at for > it. I wanted the perks like intimacy, and love. Sure we talk..Not about > these problems because they only piss her off. So there is the conversation. > I feel like I’m getting the short end of the deal here and I’ve just about > had it. I’ve tried my best, But I get soo resentful sometimes with the kids > and won’t be around them.. > I don’t want to cheat on her as this will be the end of our marriage. Once I > go down that road, There is no turning back. I don’t want to have to take > our daughter from her, as I will not leave her here if we divorce. There > sometimes sitting in the car after having too much of this on my mind where > I almost
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Well, it might help if you gave us the unabbreviated version. This was just too brief to follow. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -NERV wrote: > What is a man supposed to do? > The odd’s are stacked against me sometimes. Whatever happend to > responsible men who treated their wives with respect and love with > unimaginable support and in return got back admiration and support as > head of the family? Those times are gone now with radical movements > of women who feel that if they don’t control their men, They are > subjecgated and lowly. This is not how it was supposed to be. > My story? Well, I have 4 children. 2 my own and 2 her biological. The > 8 and 7 year old are her biological and the 8 month and 5 year old > are my biological. My 5 year old lives with my ex wife and I see him > monthly while he comes here. My daughter who is 8 months lives with > us and is both our prodigy. Her past 2 serious relationships gave > way to our 8 and 7 year old but both were physically abusive and > mental as well. The 8 year old’s biological father gave up his > parental rights in court and the 7 year old’s bio has not been seen > from for 6 years. All of you should be familiar with the hardships of > a single mother and the affects it has on 2 boys. If you don’t know > first hand, You most likely read about it I presume. If you haven’t, > Let’s just say the odd’s are against them also. Well needless to say > I found her in her life raising 2 young boys in a fashion of giving > them what they wanted when they wanted it to make up for their lack > of a father figure. She was lonely and I grew very fond of her. We > married and shortly had our baby whom we both love and couldn’t live > without. My issue here is. > The boys lacked guidance and manners. So though it was tough and I > mean tough. I straighend out the oldest as best as I could. Through > discipline and restriction and constant love. I managed to stop him > from a bad self esteem, Lack of self control, mouthy language to us > both and he brought his grades up from f’s to a’s and b’s. He also > changed from everyday getting in trouble at school to no trouble or > bad remarks at all. He is very well mannered now and says yes ma’am > and yes sir to us both. Excuses himself at the table and works just > as hard as we do in the house when asked. He cleans up after himself > and is a remarkable boy. The 7 year old however is falling apart and > will get the same manner of straightening to correct him. This worked > and the 8 year old knows he is loved and really REALLY knows the > value of the correction he received. It’s done wonders. BUT, The road > was difficult. As I was just in the family so to speak. I took > control of his care. Every action of his was regulated by me. Against > her will at times. I stood by the reasoning tha tshe was indeed a > female and could not walk a young boy’s shoes to understand what it > was and is like growing up a little boy. A year later and his entire > life turned positive, She claims that my intervention saved his life > and made him good. Sure, We had battles, Arguments and even screaming > matches to get my way and get him right. (she is soo easy to > manipulate by them) They play on her, but all kids do that. > So..That is the jist of it. Here is my main issue. > She thinks I’m too strict. I don’t allow the boys to eat sugar > products after dinner time 7:00pm as they will go to bed at 8:00pm > for the next day. No cookies, popsicles or candy. As this gets really > tough to bed them down with sugar in their diets. I don’t allow t.v. > or games or playing when they are in trouble. If they don’t do what > they are told to do the first time they are told, I will ground them > for a day with them in their rooms and an extra chore. I do not > tolerate backtalk and fighting as this leads to a swat on the rear > with a small paddle. Basic discipline here people. I watch them > closely and when they lie I don’t let them get away with it. Even > small iddy biddy white lies…. She however looks at her past where > her mother and father allowed her to get away with lying, Sneaking > out late, Back talk and ZERO manners. She claims that SHE turned out > alright and that they will too. She says all the time, " Things > aren’t fun around here anymore like they used to be". Well, My boys > are still on the road to recovery and are getting better, But it > doesn’t mean that it will be like this forever. I told her that once > the boys are older and these things are second nature to them, It > will a lot better. > I have not objected to her reasoning with our daughter as I did not > grow up a girl. I don’t know what it is like and I give her free > reign with her and the choices in her life. > IS THIS WRONG? I don’t believe it to be.. > Our relationship is suffereing. When my 8 year old starts to act up he > doesn’t quit till it’s too late. What starts as a quick mouth turns > into refusing chores and then outright tantrums. He gets punished by > grounding and corner time that my wife hates. She gets mad at ME when > HE acts up in public and I correct him saying, " Dont you 2 get into > it with each other". This offends me because It is not US getting > into it, It is my 8 year old not following the rules. Why do I get > blamed for his misbehavior? Same with my 7 year old. I have all but > turned this child around to the good side of life and when he starts > to buckle the fence and I tighten the reigns and enforce the rules, I > get shafted. Did I get between momma bear and her cubs? I am their > dad and daddy. They call me that and say I love you daddy. I have > loved them like my own! But, My wife comes first. She can’t do that. > It’s always been children first, husband somewhere down that line. > No sex..that’s what my main issue is. I can’t seem to be intimate > with my wife. If I bring it up she gets mad and starts a fight about > how I pressure her. No, It’s not post pardum depression and it’s not > hormones. She is fine and healty. In bed when I try to initiate sex, > She slaps my hands away from her body and again starts an aurgument. > During free nights alone, As it comes closer to bed time and it’s > been a long time since we have had sex, She’ll pick a fight with me > about anything. Even small things like clothes being hung on the edge > of the bed or something she didn’t like 4-5 days ago. But, Any other > night, It’s no big deal. Only during nights when we are alone and > have a chance to have sex. She aviods it at all costs. Then blame’s > me for the lack of a sex life. She is a dominant woman who will not > allow me to control the bills. I have tried to do them, but she gets > angry and starts fights. She is not frugal with money. She will buy > clothes and other items on ebay then get mad at me for buying a 2.50$ > pack of smokes. She gripes at me for not shaving and says that I look > like shit and she is embarrased of me. She throws away my clothes > that she doesn’t like. She yells at me when I’m on my computer. ( I > run a I.T. business from my home. I.T. involves extensive computer > work) I watch my 8 month old everyday of the week while she sleeps > during the day from her night job. Even on her days off.. My child > doesn’t sleep till 8 pm then gets up at 2, 6 and 7:30am. All of which > I am up tending to her. Meanwhile I must run my company from 8pm till > 2 or 4 am most nights, Then respond to my customers during the day > when I get her to sleep for 20 minute naps, Clean the house and do > the dishes, make dinner and get the other kids ready for the next > day. But I still try to put her first. Have I sent her flowers? Yes. > Do I write love letters? NO and HELL NO. If you wonder why read above > again. > I have tried my best to refuse porn and cheating. I’m afraid that my > emotional banks are overdrawn and I need a few deposits. I didn’t > come from a single life into a marraige just to raise children and > get yelled at for it. I wanted the perks like intimacy, and love. > Sure we talk..Not about these problems because they only piss her > off. So there is the conversation. I feel like I’m getting the short > end of the deal here and I’ve just about had it. I’ve tried my best, > But I get soo resentful sometimes with the kids and won’t be around > them.. > I don’t want to cheat on her as this will be the end of our marriage. > Once I go down that road, There is no turning back. I don’t want to > have to take our daughter from her, as I will not leave her here if > we divorce. There sometimes sitting in the car after having too much > of this on my mind where I almost shouted to her I want a divorce. > Some nights I almost pack up my bags and take my daughter away from > here with me..But I don’t.. > I want this to stop. She should appreciate everything that I have > done in the family and show some respect. The 8 year old said he > wanted to kill himself before, Now he is loving his life and > everything around it. Now why can’t she see what I have done > I am very angry that our sex life has been voided in all of this. I > get angry at her because sex is not a control piece to be used for > someone’s advantage over someone else. I also think that sex should > be on her perogative all the time. Damnit, I get in the mood too! > Don’t know what to do about this. I’m speaking out for anyone to give > some sound advice. I’m close to cheating on her because I’m not a > mindless drone and I need some attention to my needs. If another > woman is willing to fill that need, Then I am almost getting to the > point where I am willing. Any advice from like opinioned people?
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What is a man supposed to do? The odd’s are stacked against me sometimes. Whatever happend to responsible men who treated their wives with respect and love with unimaginable support and in return got back admiration and support as head of the family? Those times are gone now with radical movements of women who feel that if they don’t control their men, They are subjecgated and lowly. This is not how it was supposed to be. My story? Well, I have 4 children. 2 my own and 2 her biological. The 8 and 7 year old are her biological and the 8 month and 5 year old are my biological. My 5 year old lives with my ex wife and I see him monthly while he comes here. My daughter who is 8 months lives with us and is both our prodigy. Her past 2 serious relationships gave way to our 8 and 7 year old but both were physically abusive and mental as well. The 8 year old’s biological father gave up his parental rights in court and the 7 year old’s bio has not been seen from for 6 years. All of you should be familiar with the hardships of a single mother and the affects it has on 2 boys. If you don’t know first hand, You most likely read about it I presume. If you haven’t, Let’s just say the odd’s are against them also. Well needless to say I found her in her life raising 2 young boys in a fashion of giving them what they wanted when they wanted it to make up for their lack of a father figure. She was lonely and I grew very fond of her. We married and shortly had our baby whom we both love and couldn’t live without. My issue here is. The boys lacked guidance and manners. So though it was tough and I mean tough. I straighend out the oldest as best as I could. Through discipline and restriction and constant love. I managed to stop him from a bad self esteem, Lack of self control, mouthy language to us both and he brought his grades up from f’s to a’s and b’s. He also changed from everyday getting in trouble at school to no trouble or bad remarks at all. He is very well mannered now and says yes ma’am and yes sir to us both. Excuses himself at the table and works just as hard as we do in the house when asked. He cleans up after himself and is a remarkable boy. The 7 year old however is falling apart and will get the same manner of straightening to correct him. This worked and the 8 year old knows he is loved and really REALLY knows the value of the correction he received. It’s done wonders. BUT, The road was difficult. As I was just in the family so to speak. I took control of his care. Every action of his was regulated by me. Against her will at times. I stood by the reasoning tha tshe was indeed a female and could not walk a young boy’s shoes to understand what it was and is like growing up a little boy. A year later and his entire life turned positive, She claims that my intervention saved his life and made him good. Sure, We had battles, Arguments and even screaming matches to get my way and get him right. (she is soo easy to manipulate by them) They play on her, but all kids do that. So..That is the jist of it. Here is my main issue. She thinks I’m too strict. I don’t allow the boys to eat sugar products after dinner time 7:00pm as they will go to bed at 8:00pm for the next day. No cookies, popsicles or candy. As this gets really tough to bed them down with sugar in their diets. I don’t allow t.v. or games or playing when they are in trouble. If they don’t do what they are told to do the first time they are told, I will ground them for a day with them in their rooms and an extra chore. I do not tolerate backtalk and fighting as this leads to a swat on the rear with a small paddle. Basic discipline here people. I watch them closely and when they lie I don’t let them get away with it. Even small iddy biddy white lies…. She however looks at her past where her mother and father allowed her to get away with lying, Sneaking out late, Back talk and ZERO manners. She claims that SHE turned out alright and that they will too. She says all the time, " Things aren’t fun around here anymore like they used to be". Well, My boys are still on the road to recovery and are getting better, But it doesn’t mean that it will be like this forever. I told her that once the boys are older and these things are second nature to them, It will a lot better. I have not objected to her reasoning with our daughter as I did not grow up a girl. I don’t know what it is like and I give her free reign with her and the choices in her life. IS THIS WRONG? I don’t believe it to be.. Our relationship is suffereing. When my 8 year old starts to act up he doesn’t quit till it’s too late. What starts as a quick mouth turns into refusing chores and then outright tantrums. He gets punished by grounding and corner time that my wife hates. She gets mad at ME when HE acts up in public and I correct him saying, " Dont you 2 get into it with each other". This offends me because It is not US getting into it, It is my 8 year old not following the rules. Why do I get blamed for his misbehavior? Same with my 7 year old. I have all but turned this child around to the good side of life and when he starts to buckle the fence and I tighten the reigns and enforce the rules, I get shafted. Did I get between momma bear and her cubs? I am their dad and daddy. They call me that and say I love you daddy. I have loved them like my own! But, My wife comes first. She can’t do that. It’s always been children first, husband somewhere down that line. No sex..that’s what my main issue is. I can’t seem to be intimate with my wife. If I bring it up she gets mad and starts a fight about how I pressure her. No, It’s not post pardum depression and it’s not hormones. She is fine and healty. In bed when I try to initiate sex, She slaps my hands away from her body and again starts an aurgument. During free nights alone, As it comes closer to bed time and it’s been a long time since we have had sex, She’ll pick a fight with me about anything. Even small things like clothes being hung on the edge of the bed or something she didn’t like 4-5 days ago. But, Any other night, It’s no big deal. Only during nights when we are alone and have a chance to have sex. She aviods it at all costs. Then blame’s me for the lack of a sex life. She is a dominant woman who will not allow me to control the bills. I have tried to do them, but she gets angry and starts fights. She is not frugal with money. She will buy clothes and other items on ebay then get mad at me for buying a 2.50$ pack of smokes. She gripes at me for not shaving and says that I look like shit and she is embarrased of me. She throws away my clothes that she doesn’t like. She yells at me when I’m on my computer. ( I run a I.T. business from my home. I.T. involves extensive computer work) I watch my 8 month old everyday of the week while she sleeps during the day from her night job. Even on her days off.. My child doesn’t sleep till 8 pm then gets up at 2, 6 and 7:30am. All of which I am up tending to her. Meanwhile I must run my company from 8pm till 2 or 4 am most nights, Then respond to my customers during the day when I get her to sleep for 20 minute naps, Clean the house and do the dishes, make dinner and get the other kids ready for the next day. But I still try to put her first. Have I sent her flowers? Yes. Do I write love letters? NO and HELL NO. If you wonder why read above again. I have tried my best to refuse porn and cheating. I’m afraid that my emotional banks are overdrawn and I need a few deposits. I didn’t come from a single life into a marraige just to raise children and get yelled at for it. I wanted the perks like intimacy, and love. Sure we talk..Not about these problems because they only piss her off. So there is the conversation. I feel like I’m getting the short end of the deal here and I’ve just about had it. I’ve tried my best, But I get soo resentful sometimes with the kids and won’t be around them.. I don’t want to cheat on her as this will be the end of our marriage. Once I go down that road, There is no turning back. I don’t want to have to take our daughter from her, as I will not leave her here if we divorce. There sometimes sitting in the car after having too much of this on my mind where I almost shouted to her I want a divorce. Some nights I almost pack up my bags and take my daughter away from here with me..But I don’t.. I want this to stop. She should appreciate everything that I have done in the family and show some respect. The 8 year old said he wanted to kill himself before, Now he is loving his life and everything around it. Now why can’t she see what I have done I am very angry that our sex life has been voided in all of this. I get angry at her because sex is not a control piece to be used for someone’s advantage over someone else. I also think that sex should be on her perogative all the time. Damnit, I get in the mood too! Don’t know what to do about this. I’m speaking out for anyone to give some sound advice. I’m close to cheating on her because I’m not a mindless drone and I need some attention to my needs. If another woman is willing to fill that need, Then I am almost getting to the point where I am willing. Any advice from like opinioned people?
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